🎥 Why Couples Get Stuck & How Therapy Can Help | with Chris Chang Why do couples keep having the same fight over and over again—even when they love each other deeply?

🤍 In this thoughtful conversation, marriage and family therapist Chris Chang unpacks why couples get stuck in painful patterns and how therapy helps partners slow down, understand each other, and reconnect. We explore attachment, emotional safety, the stories we tell ourselves in relationships, and why conflict isn’t a sign of failure—but often a sign that both people care. 💬✨

Whether you’re feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or just curious about how couples therapy actually works, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and compassion.

🧠 In this conversation, you’ll learn:

• Why recurring conflict is usually about attachment, not the surface issue

• How emotional safety (or lack of it) shapes communication

• Why therapy focuses on understanding, not fixing or blaming

• How slowing down can transform conflict into connection

• When couples counseling might be a healthy next step—even if you’re not in crisis

⏱️ Chapters
0:00 – Who is Chris Chang & the work he does
1:00 – Why couples get stuck in repeating conflict cycles
3:00 – A systemic view of relationships (it’s not just one person)
4:25 – Why couples often come to therapy for “communication”
6:00 – Vulnerability, unmet needs, and emotional loneliness
7:45 – The stories we tell ourselves in marriage
10:05 – Slowing down conflict & creating emotional safety 12:45 – Family-of-origin patterns and shame
16:30 – How therapy helps couples truly see each other
19:30 – Why understanding matters more than agreeing
21:30 – Is couples therapy only for relationships in crisis?
23:45 – Therapy as intentional space & relational “maintenance”
26:00 – Why tension and conflict can actually lead to growth
27:50 – Why the therapy room feels safer than home
30:00 – What Chris loves most about couples counseling
32:05 – When couples should consider therapy

💡 Some of the healthiest marriages are built by couples willing to slow down, get curious, and seek support. If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or repeating the same painful cycles, couples therapy can help.

Learn more or schedule a consultation at www.newgroundcounseling.com